Tuesday, March 24, 2020

WORK ENOUGH TO DO (AND BINDER-A-LONG PART 3)

My kids love the Disney Legends movie and they love the songs.  We have adopted Johnny Appleseed's theme song.  Often you can hear us singing "there's a lot of work for us to do..." at which point everyone erupts into coyote yelps and laughter.   But yes, Johnny, there is a lot of work to do.

How is everyone holding up with the COVID-19 quarantine?  I'm guessing that most everyone is falling into one of two camps: (1)  My kids are home all the time and it takes all my energy to keep them busy and engaged in good things. Or (2)  I find myself at home with some extra time, what shall I do?  I keep daydreaming of what I would do if I were in group 2, the list is endless!  Then I drag myself back to group 1 trying to focus on the next activity.   Wherever you fall, find a way to do good.

I also encourage you to keep 2 lists.  Keep one list of things you felt prepared for during this whole deal.  What have you done well?  What have you been glad that you had in order to limit trips to the store?  What is working as you are pretty much on your own? On the other list, write down what you wish you had prepared for better.  Do you want to keep more toilet paper in the house?  Learn how to make bread? Have a better food storage of everyday items? Know more about teaching your kids at home?  This is a fantastic time to review how prepared you are, and to jot down thoughts on how to be better prepared in the future.  If you wait until "later" to think of these things, it will never happen, just keep a simple list somewhere where you will see it often.

I challenge you to take a preparedness inventory.  We are going to get through this, and though life will change a bit, it will not last forever.  I bet there is work all of us can to to be a little more prepared.  Think of ways you will work to be more self-reliant.

(You can visit my blog at byesboos.blogspot.com where I have archived over 100 preparedness posts.  Maybe these will help you in the areas you are lacking. If you still have questions, contact me, that's what I'm here for!)

Now for the BINDER-A-LONG...

If you still have not started, it is not too late!
Previous topics include
Gathering Supplies
Organizing and Emergency Lists

Today's part is FAMILY.

You want together everything that can prove you are you and your kids belong to you!

  • Recent photo of each family member
  • Birth, marriage, and death (if recent) certificates
  • Adoption Records
  • Divorce and child custody agreements
  • Drivers License (copy)
  • Military ID (copy)
  • Social Security Card (copy)
  • Passport (copy)
  • Child ID kits
  • Church membership #s and certificates (copy)
  • Military Record of Service 
  • Voter Registration card (copy)
  • Citizenship Documents
  • Genealogy Information 
  • List of usernames and passwords
  • ID cards (copy) from work, school, associations, organizations, etc.
Again, not all of these will apply to you. 

I suggest copying your cards, front side down on cardstock, then flip them all over to copy the backside on another sheet of cardstock.  Cut out and glue the corresponding sides back to back and insert cards into one of your divided sheet protectors.

You may want to organize this by family member, or you can have all of the same type of documents together.  There is no wrong way!


I challenge you to get all these pertinent items in your binder within 2 weeks!

Wednesday, March 18, 2020

EDUCATION--IT'S NOT JUST ABOUT SCHOOLWORK

Whew!  Can the events of the last 10 days be any more crazy!  I hope you are all safe and healthy.  My post today is to help you teach your children.  Now that they are home it is up to you to help them learn.  But before you get overwhelmed, take a deep breath.

Welcome to Homeschooling!

I realize many of you are not choosing this course, but whether you feel ready or not, here we are.  I do not know what the school districts are doing during this time, but I want to give you resources and ideas for you and your children to succeed.

I have been homeschooling for almost 20 years, and though it is not always fantastic and easy, I have learned a few things that I want to share with you!  I have some ideas, free resources, some not so free (but nonetheless less fabulous) resources.  And, since no one homeschools the same way (Read:  there is no wrong way to do this), I have reached out to some other homeschool moms that I respect and love for ideas and wisdom.  So, though this may be a bit lengthy, there are many jewels to be found.

Neither I, or any of those I quote receive any compensation for any products or ideas listed.   What we recommend are things we have tried and love.

From RaeLyn (that's me):
DON'T panic.  You got this!  You are your child's best teacher!  You know them better than anyone else and Heavenly Father has blessed you with unique tools to be able to help your kids like no one else.
DON'T go crazy and spend a ton of money thinking you have to find tons of books and materials to teach your kids or keep them entertained.
DON'T try to recreate public school at home.  It will not work.  This is an adventure for everyone! Think differently!
DON'T beat yourself up. Yes, this journey is fun, but it is also hard.  Really hard, like Mom needs a timeout hard.  But remember that if you didn't care so much,  you wouldn't be feeling it so strongly.  As long as you are doing your very best, it is enough. (Oh, and don't  yell...you'll regret it every time)
DO pray, pray, pray.  You will be able to know how to teach your children, Heavenly Father cares so much about you and them!  I promise, he will never leave you stranded and will answer your questions.
DO make a schedule.  You don't have to stick to in rigidly, but it helps everyone know what to expect as the day begins. It helps to change activities often to keep everyone engaged.  This also prevents the chaos that makes most moms say, "I can't wait until my kids are back in school."  I have said the same thing after a long break.  It's not sending the kids away to school we need...it's a schedule.
DO read!  Reading as a family is amazing!  Remember your favorite books as a kid and read to your children, read with your children, and have them read to you!  For ideas of great books (you know those ones that always teach you something and leave you better than you were before?), check out this list.
DO have your kids help you with your "normal chores."  Teach them to do laundry, cook meals, clean the home, help with yardwork.  Even the little ones are more capable than you can imagine.
DO teach life skills.  This is a great opportunity to teach so many things that we don't normally have time for: gardening, typing, sewing, quilting (shameless plug for my favorite hobby, great idea found here), needlecrafts, family history, scrapbooking, etc.
DO remember, Life is school!  We all learn from experiences.  It does not have to fall under the categories of "Math, Reading, Science or History" to learn from it.  Even learning how to change a diaper or make a schedule is learning!
DO spend time outside.  Run, play games, do sports as a family, etc.
DO give time for kids to do "whatever they want."  But not too much time where everyone begins to get grumpy.  I usually give my kiddos about an hour a day.
DO reward.   Whether a chart with stickers, a promise of a game, or a little bit of screen time at the end of the day, let them help you choose a reward for things accomplished.
DO include your kids in decisions.  They will be excited if they know they have a say.  I have seen miracles from parents who ask their kids to pray with them to find educational answers.
DO start out slow.  Slamming your kids with a full load of learning all at once is hard and discouraging.  Pick a focus subject for each kid and let them succeed with that before adding other things.  You will know where the balance is (remember that prayer thing?  That comes in handy here too).
DO use this time to pick something specific to work on.  Does your child need extra help with math facts, reading, exercise, etc?
DO include Dad.  He has some great ideas, helps, and can provide stability and assistance.  Even if he is not able to be in the trenches, he also receives inspiration for your kids, and their education.
DO strive to be happy.  This may be the hardest thing you have ever done, and not every moment will be rosy and joy-filled.  Fake it if you have to, but your kids will pick up on your attitude (and will most often copy it).
DO see this as an adventure!  It will have its ups and downs,  but keep praying and look for the blessings along the way.
DO take a bit of time every day to be by yourself.  Pray, read your scriptures, etc.  Make sure your kids know that it's Mom's time.  (give all the little angels something to do so they stay busy during this time).  It will help you rejuvenate.
DO keep praying, every step of the way.  And then pray some more.

I seriously could write pages about almost all of the above topics.  If you would like to hear more on any of these, let me know.  I can expand.

There are several groups offering free teaching resources.  This list is not at all exhaustive,  but it will give you a place to start. (some of these I am seeing for the first time myself!)
     Latter-Day Saint Home Educator Association has great webinars (be sure to check out the one by Marlene Peterson)
     Happy Homeschooling is a great resource that will answer a ton of questions and help you be motivated.  Diane also has some great ideas.
     The Good and the Beautiful.  Language Arts Curriculum is free for levels 1-5.  They also have a free Marine Biology Science Unit.
     Khan Academy is great for Math practice, and many other subjects!
     Raising Wonder is giving free daily art lessons (and they have so many other fantastic ideas!)
     Easy Peasy Homeschool.   Oh my,  so much to peruse!
     Scholastic is currently offering free online courses.
     DuoLingohttps://www.duolingo.com/.  Learn a new language.
     American Heritage Family School is offering their LDS based curriculum free until June.
     Homeschoolshare.comhttps://www.homeschoolshare.com/.  Free literature-based unit studies for all ages.
     artbarblog.com
     bedtimemath.com     typingclub.com     bravewriter.com     smash, boom, best (podcast)
     youtube: vi hart, periodic videos,
     amblesideonline.org,
     school house rock, skip counting or times tables songs
     Brains on podcast
     If you need some TV time, consider using YouTube to show your kids recordings of Shakespearean plays, classic ballet like swan lake or Jane Austin.

For not-free, but awesome consider looking at:
     The Good and the Beautiful.  History, Science, Language Arts, Books, Typing, oh so much.  I use many of these materials in my homeschool.  They teach great principles and are in an easy "open and go" format.  They are also very affordable.
     Teaching textbooks math. Not free, but affordable, thorough, easy on the parent, and fun for kids.

And, I really could go on and on here as there are so much fantastic curricula out there.  But, if you need help tailoring things to your kiddo and family, I am happy to help you.  Please reach out to me! (raelynstoddard(at)hotmail(dot)com)

OK, on to ideas from other experienced mamas.  I love that some things repeat, but that will give you an idea of things that really work well.

From our ward:  DaNell Friebe  (also is available to help you if needed)
     Let go and have fun. Connect to their interests! Ask each of your kids what they would like to learn about. What they want to do. Then build around their ideas. Do they want to make bread? Plant a garden? Build something? Paint their room? Learn a language? Learn an instrument? Rebuild an engine? Give them a chance to find resources online that can assist them and work together as a family or one on one to do something they are interested in. This is a rare opportunity to connect to them and their passions and do things you might not have had the time to do before. 

Play games together! So much learning can be done through games. There is lots of math in Monopoly, strategy in Clue, vocabulary in Scrabble and Password. 

Read together! Pick up a good family read and enjoy a delightful journey together. Read outside, have a picnic, make a blanket fort, turn out the lights and use a flashlight, find the place you are reading about on a map, draw pictures, build with legos, etc.

You got this moms! 

From Kim Kunz, a fun mom with super fun kids in the Fallbrook 1st Ward:
My 2 cents...I've been homeschooling for 5 years. 
1. Homeschool is NOT school at home. They are not the same in any way. That means all lesson plans have to be flexible! And can branch out whenever needed. So if your'e doing science and your kid asks a question off topic, dive in! Its so fun.
2. Embrace the chaos. Especially if you have more than one kid. They are experiencing so much change to their world right now! Usually when someone pulls out of public and goes to homeschool, i tell them to "deschool" for at least a week! Play games, read books, dig into anything they want to  learn about! Let them start to trust you as a source of so much knowledge! That usually means there are some messes and some unfinished chores. But it will be better in the long run if you can give them that time now. 
3. Everyone will have bad days. Like throw books and get frustrated. It doesn't mean you are doing something wrong. It just means someone needs a break.  Or a day off. Don't worry about fitting it all in or doing it all in one day. Just do what you can. And remember. At the end of the day your relationship with your kid will always be more important than the facts they learn. :)
Also...us homeschoolers are also used to being able to get out! Libraries, zoos, parks...those are a huge part of our classroom. So we are ALL adjusting to this. If you get cabin fever, we are there with you! Its totally normal and does NOT make you incapable of teaching your children. Haha
Chores. Assign chores. Anything they CAN do (which is more than you think) have them do! Sweep. Dishes. Laundry. Lunches. It will make a world of difference if they help! And you won't hate them because you are following them around cleaning ;) 
One more thing...if you are like my family, use MUSIC! i find when everyone is melting down, turning on background music helps! Classical is great. Sometimes we have a quick break dance party and then back to work. It is such a detox for us! 

From Juventa Vezzani, a great friend I visit taught years ago in Manassas, VA
Make it fun.
Hands on science.
Make a cloud - boiling water, bag of ice on top, and match. If you’re lucky it will rain in the jar. Read “A Single Drop of Water” and learn about the water cycle.
Paper clips aluminum foil boats - see whose boat will stay afloat the longest
Metamorphic pancakes (study of metamorphic rocks). Make fun pancakes with fillings. Heat, pressure, and chemical reaction
Two cups different colors in water. Cold water and hot water. Mix together and see what happens.
Grow sugar crystal rock candy
Living books - read, read, read
Play games
Pandemic - save the world from the outbreaks
Boggle
Bananagrams
Quirkle - colors and shapes
Set - patterns, colors, shapes
Quiddler (regular or jr) word game
Jacks - math
Vocabulary bingo/hangman
Story cubes
Viking day - dress up like Vikings, make Viking bread, reenact a battle, read stories.
Any history reenactment and time period food party.
Learn about Family history. Matching game with printed photos.
Virtual field trips.
Nature walks
Art study - monet paintings in nature.
Investigator. Have a photo. Describe it to kids. Have them draw what you describe. See who draws it the best.
Guess what’s in the box. Yes/no questions.
Movie time. Family time. Enjoy it!!!!
Campfire s’mores in the backyard.

From Kelsey Eastburn, a fun friend in the Vista 9th Ward.
Encourage people to have a rough schedule: breakfast, chores, "school time", lunch, outside play, rest quietly in bed, help make dinner, play with daddy, go to bed. But BE FLEXIBLE! Go outside to play as often as necessary!
Activities:
-Read, read, read, read, read!!! Fiction, picture books, poetry, plays, biographies, animal fact books, science fact books, classics, silly books, comic books, ANYTHING!!
-help your child make play dough and discuss measurements and ratios then play with alphabet cookie cutters
-build a blanket fort inside or outside to sit and read in
-head to the library and grab any books you can about awesome, or less than awesome people from history (Marie Curie, Joan of Arc, George Washington, Galileo, etc.) Read as much as your kids can stand about those people (while the kids play play dough, color do puzzles, play with legos or any other quiet activity) and then print a picture of that person and hang it on a ribbon on the wall to form a timeline along with pictures of many other people.
-sudoku puzzles (free printables online)
-mad libs
-word searches
-crossword puzzles
-brain teasers and riddles
-printable coloring pages
-print out a chart of asl alphabet signs and try only speaking to each other by "sign-spelling" 
-buy a bunch of postage stamps and some cheap stationary from Dollar Tree or Walmart and write letters to people who could use a lift. Ideas include: family members who live far away, older people who are stuck inside, military service people, missionaries, senators (good lesson opportunity on writing your local politician with concerns), church leaders, etc.
-make a "mailbox" that sits on the counter or somewhere visible. Encourage everyone to drop love notes for each other in the mailbox throughout the day and check the box every morning. Let them use that cheap stationary to write letters to each other as well to send in the mail
-Teach the kids how to send an email and let them email grandparents and loved ones
-Type up a story that your child makes up and dictates to you
-Cook together! Teach your child how to read a recipe, crack an egg, measure, stir, scramble, boil and chop...there's lots that can be chopped using a butter knife!
-get a cheap journal or sketch book and make it your "nature journal". Go outside every day and sit quietly; sketch what you see or describe it or collect leaves/feathers/anything and glue it into your journal
-have a "nature shelf" somewhere in your house where the kids can display the beautiful nature things they find like a museum display (snail shells, heart-shaped rocks, flower petals, pine cones, etc.)
-Try your best to enjoy this time with your kiddos and don't stress about doing anything "right". When in doubt, just snuggle!

From Rachel Young, a dear friend who recently moved to Oklahoma.
Consistent routine helps us the most. Start off with a morning opening where you do a song, prayer, the pledge, scripture study, memory work (like the family proclamation), then break off for academic work.

“Star charts” for good behavior—the purpose is for the parent to call out the good. Examples: clearing their dish, making their bed without being asked, sharing with a sibling, having a good attitude about an assignment that was hard, brushing their teeth without being asked, etc. When everyone fills out their chart with stars then the whole family gets to have a treat.

From Jennifer McLaughlin, a fantastic Temecula mama I had the opportunity to teach a class with last year.
My first thought, and one that I have already shared with some looking for where to start is to begin a good read-aloud as a family. The kids can engage their hands in a quiet activity if desired, or just snuggle on the couch... but I think having a read aloud is a great way to learn together and to pass some time!!! It can prompt some great discussions about character and life lessons. I usually recommend a couple of older classics like Little Britches or Swiss Family Robinson... and also a couple more recent ones like Wonder or Frindle... so they can find something that would appeal to their family. We are reading Tom Sawyer as a family right now... and I recently purchased Pax that we'll be reading together next (I haven't read that one before!).

From Rowena Greenwood, a veteran homeschooler  in the Vista 8th ward.  
Wow, there is really so much.  And some would depend on the ages of the children.
At this time I would try playing games especially math games, memory games, and discussing current events.  How about reading all those books you've been putting off.  Pick a book to read aloud as a family.
Yard work when it's not raining of course.
Cooking together.
Sewing projects.
There are great things online as well such as nature documentaries, science, history. 
And, because you the parent are teaching you can point out "undoctrines".

From my sweet friend Emily Gleason in the VIsta 8th ward:
If your child is complaining and doesn’t want to complete their school work, stop what you are doing and try something fun, but educational instead like a fun science project, or reading a chapter book aloud, gardening, cooking etc.
Do math first thing. I feel like my kids’ little brains do better at math in the morning.
Don’t turn on the tv or electronics until after school is over. There will be zero focusing on school work if you do.
Stick to a schedule and your kids will know what to expect. They’ll stop complaining about having to do school after a while and just get going with what’s expected of them.
Take advantage of having them with you! Cuddles on the couch with a good book is a better education than anything I can think of!
Use the scriptures for learning how to read and write and you’ll find that gospel discussions will flow easily and testimonies will grow! (As well as the added benefit of helping them read and write like champs!)
Our kids grow up so fast. Enjoy this precious time you have together. ❤
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Whew!  If you made it this far, hurrah!  I hope you can refer back to this amazing list often.  I know I have learned a few things!

Remember:  You are not in this alone.  Some of us are just a little farther on the "home education" path, but we are here to help each other!  

And remember...Have Fun and Pray often!





Wednesday, March 11, 2020

BINDER-A-LONG PART 2: ORGANIZING AND EMERGENCY LISTS

Ok, hopefully you have your supplies and are ready to start making this binder functional!

(If you missed the beginning, here is the link to the post)
     PART 1: GATHERING

Grab your binder(s), tabs, pockets, envelopes, etc.  The first step is to organize.

Remember, this is your binder.  If you want to do something a little different, place things in different sections, have a different order, or even have different sections than me, please do so!  Also remember that every situation is different.  You may not have all the recomended items, or you may have other scenarios in your life that you need to include.  This is a basic outline to help you think of everything.

I identified 12 sections I want my binder to have.  I am giving a pocket tab for each of these sections.  (My apologies, I should have told you to get 2 sets of tabs...it's not too late, just add it to your shopping list).  These sections are
   1.  Emergency
   2.  Family
   3.  Medical
   4.  Insurance
   5.  Financial
   6.  Auto
   7.  Housing
   8.  Education
   9.  Employment
   10. Life Planning
   11. Pets
   12. Other

Label your tabs and place in your binder.
Put a few page protectors behind each tab.
Decide which sections  you probably want pouches in.
Put some blank lined paper behind the "other" tab.
Put a pen and a mechanical pencil in a pouch.
Make a cover sheet for your binder(s).  I will be including a current  family photo on the cover of mine with the words "Stoddard Emergency Binder" or something similar.
Make a binder spine insert. (I find they  are a little easier to insert if they are made with cardstock).

Section 1:  Emergency
This is the section where you want all important information at your fingertips.  Consider Including:
     Emergency Contacts: Family & Friends addresses and phone numbers, Phone Tree Contacts, Kids' School and Daycare Centers, Important business associates, Doctors, Dentists, and local hospitals/clinics, Business work numbers and contacts, Neighbor Contact info, Local non-emergency numbers for police, fire, ambulance, City and Utilities.
         Your emergency plan
         Evacuation Checklist, including a list of things to quickly grab if you need to leave your home
         Maps (GPS may not be working)
         List of vital websites and Passwords.  (If you are worried about privacy, make up a code such as all numbers are listed 2 higher than in reality)
         Keys to vehicles, home, and storage spaces.  (These fit great in a 9 pocket page protector--secure the top of each pocket with tape so nothing falls out)
         Emergency ID cards
         List of Local and regional hotels
         CASH (In a pouch)
       
Put all papers in page Protectors and along with your Cash pouch, put these in your binder under the first tab.

Pat yourself on the back, that was a lot of information to pull together.

I challenge you to start your Emergency Binder and include what your family needs in case of an emergency.  Get this much done in less than 2 weeks.

I will be working on my binder!  Remember to check in by commenting for some accountability and let me know when you have finished part 2.

COVID-19 AND A 3-MONTH SUPPLY

After it was apparant that Eliana's life could only be saved with a heart transplant, we quickly moved through the steps to get her on the list.   A big part of that was the Transplant Evaluation.  We met with the Transplant Doctor and NP,  the Social Worker, Pharmacist, Surgeon, and the Nutritionist.   Talking with the Nutritionist was interesting as she covered the importance of cooking meats thoroughly, making sure food prep surfaces were not cross-contaminated, avoiding buffet lines of any kind, putting food directly in the fridge and not leaving anything out, honoring expiration dates, etc.  That's when it really started to set in that having an immunosuppressed kid is a big deal.  After we came home from the hospital, I added hand sanitizer and disinfectant wipes to my Amazon Subscribe & Save, along with my diapers and wipes.  In the last year I have officially become a germaphobe. 

With the spread of the Coronavirus, and especially watching the church make big decisions (like not inviting the public to General Conference and modifying how missionary work is done) and the WHO declaring a pandemic, it is easy to wonder what to do.

I do not know what to expect from all of this.  I do worry, especially with our heart transplant baby and an older daughter who sees cheap airfare as her chance to travel the world.  But I do know what we have been taught:  Be self reliant, and prepare.

I know that the church has asked us for years to have a 3-month supply of food in our homes (see also the All is Safely Gathered In pamphlet).  I gave ideas for getting your 3 month supply the first part of 2018.  You can read about these goals here:
     Plan
     Organize
     Purchase
     Supplement


We have also been taught for years to have a 1 year supply of food in our homes.  In April of 2018, I issued a challenge for every family on our ward to have this year's. Supply by April 2019.  You can also read about the helps I gave to accomplish this here:
     LTS Month 1
     Using Salt
     LTS Month 2
     LTS Month 3
     LTS Month 4
     LTS Month 5
     Using Beans
     LTS Month 6
     Using Sugar and Honey
     LTS Month 7
     Using Dried Milk
   
We have been counseled over and over to pe prepared, but don't go crazy or in to debt to obtain food storage.   But if these are still on your to-do list, please do not wait any longer to start.

A huge part of being prepared is to think ahead of time about scenarios and what you will do when something happens.  I admit, I have been planning more for natural disasters than a worldwide pandemic.  But seriously, what if your family does need to quarantine themselves for a bit (welcome to my world!)?  Are you spiritually prepared so that gospel instruction can happen in your home if we are not able to attend church meetings? What if schools are closed and you need to educate your children from home (I have a little experience with this and can answer some questions if you would like.  I recomend adding printer ink and paper to your basic supplies list)?  Do you have seeds and are able to plant even a small garden of fruits and vegetables so your family can eat fresh food?  Do you have a reserve of money so that if a change in employment status occurs you can keep your family going?

I do not want to portray "doom and gloom, " but I do believe that a little preparedness can go a long way.

I challenge you to look at your food supply and determine what you can do to at least have a good 3 month supply.  Also, think about what a worst-case-scenario pandemic might look like for your family.  Are you ready for what may come?  What can you do today to better prepare for this event.

If you have questions about any of the things I have touched on, please feel free to shoot me an email: raelynstoddard(at)hotmail(dot)com.  I don't profess to know everything, but hopefully I can point you to some good resources to help you on your preparedness journey.